What I’ve Learned Lately From My Students, Class Guests, and Clients:
- We all consist of multiple parts-of- selves, all of which are struggling to get along. Finding the big “true-self” who is in charge can be hard.
- At the beginning of a meeting with a client, make an “upfront contract” about what you will be covering and what you will be trying to achieve or decide.
- To make yourself a better person, get to know people who are not like you. Seek out people with different points of view.
- Beware of someone with an “entitlement attitude”: i.e. “I’ve been here longer than you have and I don’t care what you think.”
- Typically in a system, when someone is under-responsible, someone else is over-responsible. What is hard to achieve is a dynamic balance, or the “area- of-right responsibility.”
- Humility is underrated in our society.
- Everyone you meet is carrying around their own pile of sorrow and shame.
- When someone has decided to leave, it’s best to get them “out the door” as fast as possible.
- When you are getting angry, remember well this phrase: NOM which means it’s “not about me.”
- When you go into a room, learn as quickly as possible to read the mood of the room. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/11/02/opinion/sunday/nunchi.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share
- I believe we are all somewhere along the OCD-ADD spectrum. There is no normal. Everyone who is in a leadership position can trace the roots of leadership to experience where they first were perceived as a leader. What is your leadership of origin story?
- Males and females in professional roles are treated very differently by their clients based on their gender.