I first wrote about emotional intelligence in my 1992 book for men, “Awakening from the Deep Sleep.” In my book I describe a man I had in therapy. Peter came at the suggestion of his wife who explained to me that Peter would never talk to her about his feelings. After working with Peter for a few months, he thanked me for helping him to improve his relationship with his wife. He said he had become much better at …
I grew up as an only child in one small house with both my parents and my grandparents. Grandpa Izzie and Grandma Mary died before I had a chance to ask them about their family stories and history. Too bad, because I believe in the power of families to influence our behavior over the generations, often without us being aware of the powerful force our ancestors carry upon us. With this in mind, recently I arranged a visit with my mother’s first …
Last Saturday I enjoyed presenting a talk on emotional intelligence to 150 employees at TLC Eyecare & Laser Centers, which has offices throughout Michigan and Ohio. Listening to these employees, I heard loudly and clearly how complicated their jobs are, and why emotional intelligence is crucial for their success in their managerial roles. They explained that their job requires them to manage relationships at multiple levels. On a weekly basis, they have to manage relationships with: The staff they are …
At the start of this chaotic new year, we have to focus on what we can control. At last week’s Leaders Connect Breakfast (Video of the 1/6/2017 Leaders Connect is up at https://youtu.be/zYd0oHX5bCg), we learned that we can control two important aspects of our lives: what we choose to eat and how we choose to stay active. At the breakfast, participants were treated to a presentation by nutritionist, Allison Mankowski, who provides nutritional counseling to the athletic department at Eastern Michigan University …
For most of my life, I’ve used a simple goal-setting method that I learned from a colleague as a young man. I write my goals on index cards using this format: What? The specific, measurable goals that I want to achieve and the date that I set them. (No vague dreams.) By when? The date for achieving the goals. (Research shows that 90-day goals can be most effective. Longer-term ones tend to get lost; shorter-term ones come to resemble to-do …